It was a blast. No adult man named Tim wants to be called Timmy. That's when I stopped searching. You're NTA. NTA. Recently, he TOLD ME he was taking my car to see his bio son. Oh wait. Ain't they laughing? Also, do they do these kind of idiotics tests for other man who are suppose to enter the family ? I have asthma too, its mild enough that Ive never had to go to hospital, but I have had to sit for in the local doctor on the nebuliser a few times. My junior and senior years of high school they had my two younger half-brothers and my stepdad forced me to drop out of all extracurriculars so I could take care of them after school which severely hurt my chances of scholarships. NTA, if I'm 'Tim ' that prank hiding my inhaler will land op 'dad, brother, cousin and uncle' in jail for attempting murder. This is not normal behavior. "Access" is all well and good until you wind up at an out-of-network emergency room. The spares too if they were mounted externally. 8.6K views, 64 likes, 0 loves, 68 comments, 3 shares, Facebook Watch Videos from Reddit Addiction: AITA for uninviting my stepdad from my wedding so my. Press J to jump to the feed. Everyone should be laughing and no one's life should be in danger over one. I'd be livid, and they would stay uninvited. Risking death because your family is shit just isnt worth it in the long run. For the people telling OP that shes TA for not cutting off sooner, please understand that for most people that grow up in this type of environment we become slightly apathetic to it and make excuses cause we think its NORMAL. NTA but you wont be if you dont take drastic measures to ensure this bullying stops. this type of toxic masculinity is why men die so much more often from accidents and suicide. They are vandalism, destruction of property, and attempted murder. So according to your family, I (a woman) am a man cause I can fix tires, cause obviously that's a manly man thing and not just a question of interests and acquired skills? This! You wouldnt hide someones epipen or insulin. They will neither sit down nor shut up. Are they going to test the boys? This should be the top comment. He'd still be here if his thinking wouldn't have been "I'm not going to the doctor, they just find things wrong with you." This is not pranking, it's abuse. and our Press question mark to learn the rest of the keyboard shortcuts. Exactly. Pretty soon they will be cutting his brake lines to see if he is a real man and can bail out of his car. This is toxic masculinity at it's finest. Your father is an especial AH as he is too old for this complete rubbish and should be a sensible moderating influence on the younger family members. Her brothers don't care enough to be in her wedding if they are in the same room as another person they don't like. Well it's not like the asthma is real anyway, so why would he really need it? If they see that as a joke then their heads arent screwed on correctly. I mentioned this in another comment below but I had to get all my tires replaced last October right before I went on vacation and that cost ran over 600. It took until they actually endangered his life for her to tell her idiot relatives to stop torturing the man she allegedly loves? Fuck people like this and their asinine 'pranks'. Show your mom this thread so she can see that most normal people do not think it was okay AT ALL. Throwawayfamily976 29040 S x 9 G 2022-03-11 11:41:21 NTA. This is not pranking, its cruel bullying and taking away your fiancs inhaler could have had deadly consequences. Arent we trying to advocate for mens mental health? Or are they the kind of people who will just keep being assholes? Eeesh. I already knew that answer after you said they slashed his tires, NTA. Wow :/, honestly OP is the asshole, for being too soft with her parents and allowing this shit to happen, This is exactly what I came here to say. If someone pushes waaay too far after being told to stop many times, they need to face the consequences of their actions. Just as an aside, do you know what it is like to try and stand up, do the right thing, or even just express a new opinion, and have people laugh you off or talk over you just because you're a small, female-born, young-looking individual? Poor Tim. Yeah, it can range in severity. My siblings have disowned me and speak badly about me and the situation. Your family were bullying, harassing, and assaulting your fiance, and until they understand the severity of their actions and apologize, I wouldn't ever allow myself to be alone with them again if I were him. At what point during his asthma attack would they be able to tell if he was being soft or if it was real? Yeah It took me way too long to realise that the crime there is very simple. Definitely NTA!! Sounds like he's put up with so much already for your sake. As you say, she's 16 and knows what she's doing. That's a crazy amount of money. Your male family members sound like toxic sexist AH, who love bullying under the pretense of how manly they are. No amount of masculine hobbies excuses that. of abuse? NTA and I would've called the cops for the slashed tires. Like that post we saw of the girls brother pretending to throw her baby down the stairs. I can play your game, AND pay for damages. Even if I had to eat ramen for 6 months to pay for it. If they asked where he was, he was with his own family, but I was going to see them later. I sent Dean and Kevin invitations but once they found out that our stepdad was going to be there, they said they might not come. I am assuming your fiance has been putting up with this out of respect for you and your family. Youre 3 god damn it! OP, it sounds like the men in your family are jerks and hoping your future husband wont disrupt their dysfunction. Leave them uninvited. Slashing tyres and hiding lifesaving medication is objectively not funny and is literally just bullying. These are the intensifyingly cruel acts of a mob towards someone they view as an outsider. Uninviting her is not the solution to your problem. Lord knows what they will pull on any kids you have. NTA all the way. Just look at the way talk about him! Cut those toxic people out and go be happy with the man who loves you. Who wants to be treated like that for the rest of their life? People really act like this? A set of new tires will easily run you $600-$800, that is a very expensive prank and I absolutely would have taken them to small claims court over it. NTA. Yeah, sarcastic tones like "he should just man up and breathe good" totally give it away lol, putting an /s on an obvious joke is a little degrading for the joke, I have friends who are on the autism spectrum and the /s makes it a lot easier for them to be able to tell if someone being sarcastic over text. NTA , pranks and tests are okay but they need boundaries. Good lord, NTA!!! NTA these are not pranks, this is just immature and terrible behavior. These are not funny pranks, these are "how much will you take?" Your family will never like or accept him (or possibly any guy you bring home as they sound toxic af). It's been five years since I realized what was going on, and only one sibling has come to the same conclusion since then. Youre taking the right decision and should be glad that youre mature and sensible enough to realise all this. Die on this hill. I suggest you tell them that you understand that they're intimidated by someone with a real education and who idea of fun isn't dumb jock humour but that you move beyond such immature behaviour and they're out of your life altogether until they apologise to TIM and if they ever "prank" him again they out for ever. Its unfortunate that they are your family members. Imagine the boundaries theyll cross when you have children! So, he leaned into my husband's strengths, which was his extreme empathy and ability to navigate social situations and deal with mental health issues (husband is a social worker now, was studying to be one at the time). What about your future child if you have a boy? NTA. Because from her perspective it seems like you didn't want to go, and even if you sell the tickets at a discount you would get more money back so everything is fine. Here's a suggestion tell them that you'll invite them back if they tell a cop exactly what all they did, and ask the cop if it was illegal. They're immature little boys who believe they have to pretend to be tough so they don't get laughed at. REAL men's lips turn red like the blood of our poached kill!!". They are BULLIES, OP. Far from it. Let mom know your full feeling and the risks they took. He told me how selfish i am and that he wont be coming if my mom is there and that i only got that scholarship because of him. . They hid his damn inhaler for 3 days. It's their property". NTA OP, but I wouldnt let them around your husband because they did endanger his life. she's TA for allowing her husband to be treated so abhorrently. Agreed. You don't invite your bullies to your wedding. OP's family are criminal thugs who are endangering his life. I would be pressing charges for sure. In the post titled "AITA for uninviting my cousin, brother, uncle and dad to my wedding over a prank?"?" Theyre literally vandalizing a vehicle and engaging in medical abuse to prove some sort of sick and twisted toxic masculinity flex. Imagine your sons having to bear such insane behavior from grown men. They might show up anyway and cause an embarrassing scene for "pranks" and revenge. This was DANGEROUS. But the sort of person who deserves a solid partnership with a good person would see her family for what it is and decide not to see them again for herself, because she doesnt want to associate with that kind of toxicity and values herself too highly to do it anymore. After that she got really jealous of my relationship with my. ", Then why tf did you ask him if you knew he was gonna be biased lmao. NTA its bullshit toxic masculinity, men do not test each other like this unless they have frail egos themselves. They made their living off the land and were proud of that. And they could have hurt him. NTA. And if I were you, I'd take a real close look at the abuse they've subjected you to. They are all stupid creeps. NTA, they literally could have put his life at risk over a stupid prank. Jesus Fucking Christ! And maybe, just maybe your dad and other family members involved will get some personal growth out of this and grow up to be a proper men. Or tell Tims's sons their father is "soft" and a wimp? Let them sulk. God I hate people. YTA for allowing it to get this far. Dad is flat out saying he will never respect OPs husband. NTA. Will they get the same abuse? NTA. What about them proving to you that they are decent people who love and care about you? Get out or get on board. You are absolutely correct, there is a big difference between prancing and bullying, and OPs family is on the wrong side of that gap. Demands were never gonna do shit, actions were. NTA. They should deal with the consequences. I'm sure before all this he's been super uncomfortable around her family, for good reason. Maybe even treat them in the exact same way. It's absolutely fucked! Your family is really toxic. Honestly that was pretty rude of her but unless her actions were specifically malicious I don't think she is the asshole NAH They might be trying to kill him, asthma is no joke. This is very petty and I dont actually recommend it, but if you really want to ram your point home just be like Im marrying Tim BECAUSE hes not the same kind of man you are lol. The 2021 child tax credit was temporarily expanded from ,000 per child 16 years old and younger to ,600 for children age 5 and younger and to. Half the stuff they did could land them in jail if he wanted to press charges. They fucked up. I'd press charges in the same situation honestly. Also tell the four muppets that it's 2022 and it is not normal to bully the man your daughter/sister/niece/cousin wants to marry. English? Um, hey. NTA and you made the right decision sticking up for your fianc as he is obviously madly in love with you to put up with your families bullshit. I'd be calling the cops. Oh a nut allergy? Really. NTA. Assuming the sides of the tires were cut there is no plugging those. Your family are living in another century and you're NTA. They took time to think then gave me an ultinatum stating that if our stepdad is coming then they won't be. Oh man I just had a discussion about this with two guys in their 50s giving me shit for seeing a doctor and getting a check up. These guys are bullies. Honestly if I were your fiance I wouldn't even want to marry into that nonsense. Poor Tim. My dad's siblings and their wives (and children) are kind of horrible. Fuck those guys. Let's see how they, in this hypothetical scenario, like the PRANK of NOT BEING ABLE TO BREATHE PROPERLY. What if hed had an asthma attack and died, thats murder not a prank. Send them all links for information about consequences of their behaviour regarding his inhaler. Dont let them go to your wedding. The stepfather cared for her enough to pay for her wedding, take on a fatherly role, be there for her. Where are your priorities op?! Rejecting feminine things like healthy social connections literally shortens their lives. From the get go they assumed that Tim is "less of a manly man than them" so all those "tests and pranks" are just there to humiliate him and stroke their own over inflated ego. Is this the future you want? Asshole I f25 along with my two brothers Dean & Kevin (both 30s) went through rough time during our parents divorce, mom got married to my stepdad and we lived with him for years. They will always treat your fiance like shit and like he is less than. The truth is their pranks were expensive and hurtful - and nobody is laughing. Your fianc could have died! And I'd say their behavior is not funny nor normal. First, none of those "challenges" are typical of things men do and several are legit crimes. Lets kill his dog to see if he burys his emotions like a real man! Conditional NTA depending on how you behave from now on. With the cost of the tow and labor you might be talking more than a thousand. I actually disagree with everyone who says you're not the asshole because you very clearly are. Id tell them since they suck so much at life they can sit at the house and play pranks on one another and if mommy wants to get involved, she can sit her ass at the house with them as well. OP is the poster child for NTA. Assholes are assholes who deserves to get cut out of your life. NTA they took his medication! He's an American actually fortunate enough to have access to healthcare and is bragging that he doesn't get it, despite obviously needing it? Words simultaneously have no meaning at all and all of their possible meanings. Since he buys high quality tires, that'd have been an immediate vandalism report. Would you want to put your child and your mental wellbeing through that? NTA. It's like they're out of It's Always Sunny. It's obvious they have preconceived ideas on what a real man is (going so far to risk your finances health). Hiding an inhaler? I think you all let it go to far before you stood up for him. And wanted to see if he was "man" enough to go through it without his inhaler, this is so toxic. Exactly. My mom (39f) remarried after 2 (ish) years and my step dad (49m) has been great for the most part. Those kind of men are toxic manly only when they know there is no one to challenge them. Are they rednecks? I never got the impression OP wasnt supportive of the fianc. Nta. Based on how they are described I highly doubt theres would be the type of people to actually confess to hiding his inhaler if he died before he found out and told OP. . NTA - hold your ground. You don't have to tell me about how awful some doctors can be. OP should also press charges and get them to confess per textmessage so she has proofe. "What type of relationship does your dad have with your siblings? Uninviting her is not the solution to your problem. And if someone almost killed my husband over a ill-planned prank they definitely wouldn't be invited into our lives anymore either. AHs are still AHs. po Congrats on your wedding and good luck! You're TA for continuing to subject your fiance to them. Redditor aitamumuninvited is a 31-year-old man whose mother did not wholly embrace her future daughter-in-law because of something she did. And talking about seeing your life moving forward how will you feel when they start this pranking with your future kids? NTA. Do you really need these people and their defenders in your life? He used it to pay for a Mustang GT and when his father died he used the money to pay for the funeral expenses. 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